{"id":1585,"date":"2023-01-14T13:35:40","date_gmt":"2023-01-14T13:35:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/?p=1585"},"modified":"2023-01-14T20:16:34","modified_gmt":"2023-01-14T20:16:34","slug":"passivity-a-slow-corrosive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/?p=1585","title":{"rendered":"Passivity, a slow corrosive"},"content":{"rendered":"

11th December 2022, 07:49, Lagos<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cLove is not possessive but neither is it passive.\u201d I randomly uttered these words as I lay still in bed. It’s a short but profound sentence that I\u2019m learning to practise in my relational life.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve often seen people who are so nonchalant about their love that it scares me. In their defence, they believe that they\u2019re giving the person they love the space to do whatever they will. They want the other person to feel like they have a choice. Whilst I understand the intention because as Corinthians says \u201clove doesn\u2019t seek its own will\u201d, I don\u2019t agree with passivity.<\/span><\/p>\n

The dictionary defines passivity as\u00a0 \u201can acceptance of what happens, without active response or resistance.\u201d As I pondered on passivity I couldn\u2019t help but notice how it can hinder or even corrode a relationship (particularly a romantic relationship). Why be passive? Real love is bold. It doesn\u2019t leave room for the other person to question its authenticity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When I think about Jesus, he was always candid about the reality of hell – it exists – It\u2019s very much there! He always gave us choice in everything – including salvation, but he never flaunted hell as an \u201cok\u201d option. Nor did he say \u201cI give you a choice but if you choose hell I\u2019m also super cool with it.\u201d Although He gave man the ability to choose He would always express what He wanted in that situation. In the case of salvation He would share his heart about His desire to see His children restored and reunited to Him:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>Father, I desire that they also whom You gave Me may be with Me where I am<\/b>, that they may behold My glory which You have given Me; for You loved Me before the foundation of the world.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

John 17:24 NKJV<\/span><\/p>\n

Jesus longs to be reunited with his children. From the jump He was – and continues to be – bold and open about His love for us. In the Christian faith we are called to mirror Christ in all that we do from how we run our families, to showing up at work, to relationships – in all things we are called to draw wisdom from Him.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I reflected on this I sighed deeply. Passivity certainly ruins relationships. With passivity I guess the doer believes they protect themselves from rejection. Or they don\u2019t want to be seen as \u201ctoo much\u201d. That’s sad because it means that the relationship will never get to real safety and security. There are depths of love and intimacy that can only be revealed when both parties are bold and open about their love for each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even with my relationship with God I\u2019ve seen more of him as I\u2019ve been bolder, more aggressive in my pursuit and spent more time with Him. The more I ran after him the more he showed me. It\u2019s through our dance that I\u2019ve seen depths of the spirit I could never have imagined.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So today I want to speak candidly about passivity. Let us be very clear about one thing – it doesn\u2019t protect you. In fact, it corrodes the very thing you hold dear. Passivity opens the door for fear and doubt in the heart of the one you love which of course leads to greater issues within the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is not a call to creep people out but instead to love boldly (as led by the spirit of God of course). Instead of assuming someone knows how you feel, say it! Be bold about your love! Don\u2019t be afraid to declare things repeatedly. Over time, the relationship will be strengthened and will give rise to deeper intimacy which is what we all truly crave.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love always,<\/span><\/p>\n

T<\/p>\n

P.s. the cover image is a picture of piece designed by a well-known Nigerian Artist Tolu Aliki<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

11th December 2022, 07:49, Lagos\u00a0 \u201cLove is not possessive but neither is it passive.\u201d I randomly uttered these words as I lay still in bed. It’s a short but profound sentence that I\u2019m learning to practise in my relational life. I\u2019ve often seen people who are so nonchalant about their love that it scares me. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1587,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_wp_convertkit_post_meta":{"form":"-1","landing_page":"","tag":"0"},"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1585","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-perspectsees"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1585","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1585"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1585\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1613,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1585\/revisions\/1613"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1587"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1585"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1585"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepowercloset.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1585"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}